Do You Let People Love You?

Do you let people love you?  Do you let them know you?  Love takes time.  There are some acts of love, mercy, grace, and kindness that require very little and can be accepted without any commitment.  When someone opens the door for you in the store, smiles at you, or lets you have a parking place, you can generally accept it without trying to interpret their motives.  There are others acts of love that are more reaching and involve covering a multitude of sins.  We want to run from our proclivities, but God in His perfection is willing to be with us and cover for us while we work on repentance and change.  Accept the love and mercy that is being offered to you; do not reject goodness.  Do not insult the person who tries to give you something good.  It is okay to be uncomfortable while you practice receiving graciously.

Do you worry about accepting anyone’s niceness?  Do you reject their little gifts of grace to you for fear that there will be strings attached later?  It can be so much easier to accept good things from people we do not know, people who are unlikely to be there later, because we see little chance of having to repay them in the future.  But in most cases we do not have to read minds and interpret motives; we can simply say, “Thank you,” authentically without trying to read between the lines.  If we find later that there were strings attached, after all, we can simply say, “I wish I had known that you were wanting that in return.  What can I do now?”  Usually, continuing to live as a changed person in response to the kindness is the best repayment.  If you think that you do not deserve it, take a deep breath and say, “It’s not about me.”  This can help you not to steal from others the reward of being kind.  Work on accepting compliments, even if you do not believe them right now.

Love covers a multitude of sins.  It is not the same as enabling.  Love does not expose our ugliness while we are working on repentance and change.  It is a gift of grace that comes from God.  God knows the depth and darkness of our thoughts and actions, and He does not put time limits on our changing.  We do not have to get it all figured out before we go to God; in fact, He would rather we come to Him messy.  (Our own attempts to clean up the mess without Him generally just make things worse.) 

And, remember, you can show love to others, too.  You do not have to love perfectly in order for someone’s life to be changed.  Loving someone is not always an ongoing commitment; you can start with small acts of kindness throughout the day.  Practice I Corinthians 13 on yourself.  The more you are willing to engage with this kind of love, receiving the love of God and loving yourself well, the more you will be able to love others.  Practice love.  Do not wait for perfection.  You can apologize when wrong.  God is the Father that is with you.