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Cinthia Hiett - Be Your Own Best Version
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Sunday Dec 12, 2021
Sunday Dec 12, 2021
Negative feelings tend to be uncomfortable. As members of modern western culture, many of us have come to fear negative emotions and think that we are entitled to have positive feelings all the time. We may try ineffectually to change ourselves or others, hoping the negative feelings will go away. Others try to ignore negative feelings and miss the clear warning signals those feelings could send. What are we supposed to do with these messy, uncomfortable negative emotions that we just wish would stop already? Join Cinthia to examine your own beliefs about negative feelings and to learn how to handle them more effectively.
Sunday Dec 05, 2021
Sunday Dec 05, 2021
Stressful situations have a way of revealing what is really inside of us, and holidays can sometimes fit this description! Sometimes we respond to stress by going into survival mode, even when our actual survival is not being threatened. We may feel cornered, panic, and engage in some kind of fight/flight/freeze response when, in fact, we do have choices available. Today Cinthia discusses what it means to distinguish the appropriate level of response to a situation and how to keep momentary stress from stealing the moments we have. Is it possible that you will need to soothe yourself during some stressful situations this holiday season? Join Cinthia to look at how to enjoy what there is to enjoy this holiday season, even while the stressors swirl around you.
Sunday Nov 28, 2021
Sunday Nov 28, 2021
Last week, Cinthia started talking about “A.N.G.E.R.” This week, she explains the acrostic in more detail, looking at ways we know we are “doing anger well” or doing it poorly. She then continues looking at how to manage ourselves well when family holidays are difficult or when we do not have the families and holidays we wish we did.
Sunday Nov 21, 2021
Sunday Nov 21, 2021
How do you know when your anger is a problem? And what can you do if it is? Anger is a normal, healthy emotion that can be of service to us, our relationships, and the world around us. However, it can also be handled badly, and, when it is, it can be very, very dangerous. Sometimes we don’t even recognize our anger, and it comes out in all kinds of ways. So how can we make sure we are recognizing our anger and managing it well? Join Cinthia for a holiday anger check-up.
Sunday Nov 14, 2021
Sunday Nov 14, 2021
It’s hard to get far in human relationships without running into the issue of need. We need each other, but we don’t want to need each other in the wrong ways, wrong amounts, wrong times… Some of us wish we didn’t have to need other people at all! As we continue the fresh 2021 version of Relationships 101, Cinthia reviews some concepts from recent podcasts and then explores the meanings and implications of our various dependencies in human relationships. She finishes by taking a specific look at addictive relationships. These are sometimes hard to define or understand, but, when you hear Cinthia describe them, you will find it easier to determine whether the characteristics resonate for you. Join Cinthia to explore the crucial issue of dependency and find a step you can take toward improving the health of your own relationships today.
Sunday Nov 07, 2021
Sunday Nov 07, 2021
It’s hard to look at relationship behaviors without talking about family, whether families of origin or the families we have created as adults. Our relationship behaviors are often created and regularly exhibited in our family relationships. We may form family patterns with our spouses or children based on experiences we had as children, whether by recreating the same dynamics or by reacting against them. While there are no perfect families and there is little value in “grading” or “judging” families simply for the purpose of criticism, there is tremendous value in considering what we have experienced so that we can respond appropriately: being grateful for the good things, grieving the losses, and learning how to create healthier patterns in the future. Join Cinthia to consider your own experiences with family relationships and to identify ways to be more intentional with this now.
Sunday Oct 31, 2021
Sunday Oct 31, 2021
Relationships are one of the most important parts of life, but that doesn’t make them easy. There may not be a standard textbook for dealing with people, but today Cinthia offers some basic concepts and skills to improve your relationships and relational functioning. Whether you are struggling to learn these things for the first time or have taught them to others for years, these principles are important enough to learning, review, evaluation, and growth. Join Cinthia for some practical how-to guidelines for dealing with yourself, other people, and life in relationship with others.
Sunday Oct 24, 2021
Sunday Oct 24, 2021
Last episode, Cinthia discussed determining our value by starting with our Creator and the value He established in us, rather than with our own history, performance, feelings, or contributions. Today, she discusses what this means for our relationships. What happens when we relate to other people based on the value God created in us and in others? What does this mean for how we treat others and how we expect them to treat us? What does it mean for how we respond when someone does not treat us appropriately?
Sunday Oct 17, 2021
Sunday Oct 17, 2021
Sunday Oct 10, 2021
Sunday Oct 10, 2021
Sometimes we fight to preserve what we think we need, only to find we are preserving what chokes the life out of us. What in your life do you try to protect, even when God seems to be nudging you to let it go? What are you afraid of losing, and what are you losing because you won't let go? It might be a bad thing, or it might be something that seems so good, so right, so appropriate, except that God is saying, "Trust Me; I have something better for you." If you are familiar with Cinthia's book God Wants You Truly Living, Not Walking Dead, you know that she has wonderful insights on this topic. Today she presents it from a fresh perspective, focusing on what it means to let God deal with our sin instead of insisting on judging ourselves. Join her to consider what needs to die in order for you to truly live.